I could start off the New Year on my blog by saying that I’m going to blog more often. Or perhaps, it might be more appropriate to apologize for disappearing and not blogging for an inordinate amount of time.
I am sorry that I haven’t been around. I am sorry that I haven’t been reading everyone’s blogs. I know how it feels sometimes when bloggers “disappear” and you never really know why.
I’d like to think that this year I will get back to blogging more regularly. The truth is that I do really miss it. I think often, usually daily, about what I would write on my blog if I just had the time to make it here… If I just wasn’t so tired. My phone is filled with notes containing one line thoughts and ideas that would make for good blog topics. I have pictures and interesting nuggets that I imagine sharing. But I also miss writing – and being a good writer, at that. I used to be an amazing writer and I used to have profound things to say. Now I don’t know where that all went. I want my blog to mean something, even if it only means something to me.
The real truth, though, is that I’ve been so tired.
Since I started back at work, it’s been a inordinate effort to ensure I am giving off the right message of interest, commitment, and hard work. I can’t afford for even one person to think I could do better, and that is exhausting.
Three kids is a whole lot of tired, too. It’s been an exciting ride, and little El is already 8 months old. I’m not sure how that amount of time has flown by, but it has and I am still managing. I find it a challenge to really give each of my children the time they deserve. I especially feel bad for E, my middle child, who is at that horrible age of 4-5… he’s straddling the line between toddler and kid and he embodies the worst characteristics of each one. It is not my favourite age; I did not like it when A was that age and I suspect I will not like it when El is that age either. And so I feel that I fall short as a loving, attentive mother to E. Feeling like I need to do better is tiring.
Breastfeeding while working an 80 hour week with call shifts… now that is a whole new level of exhaustion. I love breastfeeding. I am already sad thinking about the possibility of it ending. I still exclusively breastfeed El when I am home and I pump all the milk she drinks while I am away. Finding time to pump between clinic patients and OR cases is like trying to solve an impossible puzzle. Amazingly though, I leave each shift with enough milk to fill El’s bottles for the next day. It is fulfilling, even though I loathe being attached to a breast pump each and every day.
Not having time for myself is also… just tiring. I haven’t been running. I haven’t been reliably going to Taekwondo. I haven’t been getting pedicures, or going for massages, or blogging, or doing anything other than working, mothering, and pumping milk. I want to do better and hopefully (paradoxically) this will lead to less “feeling tired.”
I will set some goals for this year, like I did the past two years. I’m optimistic that this will help with getting me back where I want to be. I was extremely successful with this endeavour in 2015 (which was documented on my old blog, before I had to close it down), but looking back at the goals for 2016, I was very far off the mark. I still need some time for reflection on what these goals will be, but I know they will follow a similar pattern of fitness goals, wellness goals, and personal life goals.
Maybe the first goal will be: “To be less Tired.”
And to achieve that, I should probably get to bed.