How do you cultivate positivity in your life?
I sometimes feel like I have an eternally pessimistic attitude. I like to think I am being positive, but deep down I think I fail at that. I feel like I am constantly on the defence – like something bad is always going to happen to me. Or like people’s actions against me are always “bad” when really they are just neutral and I see them as negative. Or maybe I’m not looking for the good in most situations.
I know that the lack of exercise in my life lately may be somewhat to blame for my more pessimistic attitude. But there has to be more! What do those eternally positive people do or think that makes them so upbeat and ambitious? I really wish I knew what was needed to stay on the upslope all the time. I don’t like appearing negative all the time.
I need to change. Any suggestions?
“A positive attitude may not solve all of your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”
Over the past year I have worked harder at having a positive attitude? Maybe it’s because I was told by a certain someone that I was too negative, or maybe it’s because in January I set a goal of trying to be more gracious and positive in life. That worked out really well for me, at least until July, when I had to close my other blog. See I used to keep a monthly accountability log of my personal goals on my blog. I thought about keeping that up with this new blog, but it was hard missing most of the back story.
Last year I wrote about how this quotation alluded to motiviation for positivity, and then I went off on a tangent about what motivates us to do the things we do in life. based on this excerpt from last year’s post, it’s obvious that I am not always placing motivation in the right spot… and I questioned if that was alright:
But what about me? What if the reason I keep going on from day to day is because I don’t want to let people down? Or that I don’t want people to know that I quit? Or maybe that I have too many student loans to pay off and this is the only way to do it? What if I don’t always feel motivated by the desire to reach my goals – or that I want to finish my residency, or to become a knowledgeable, capable and compassionate physician? I *want* all those things, I really do. But they all just seem so far away and so out of reach. If I just keep making it through for all these other reasons, will it matter in the end… if I get all those things I want in the long term?
This year, I feel like I am much more motivated by the things I really want (as described above) and not nearly as much as by the more superficial ideas I mentioned. By what about my positivity? Has my positivity influenced the way I am motivated? Or, what motivates me to be positive. I have to say, I don’t think I am motivated to be positive because I think it will annoy people. I have come to learn that having a positive outlook on life and on the situations in which I find myself makes those situations (and life) seem more tolerable and worth getting through. I need that at low times like these, otherwise I will continue on a spiralling path downwards… and I know I don’t want that.
There was never a quotation for November 2nd. Instead, I talked about my gift to my friend: What was in it, how I assembled it, how I delivered it, and how she would get the first quotation the next day.
Today, there is still no quotation. There is, however, still a gift… a gift for me. This gift is the tool of reflection. I have been going back through the posts from last November and I have been making some interesting discoveries about myself and how much has changed in the past year.
I thought things were difficult for me now. But, they were much worse for me then. While it’s sad to think that I was in such a low place last year, it is reassuring and affirmative to realize that I have overcome so much and that my perspective on my life and my choices has changed. I won’t elaborate too much on this for now, as I don’t want to spoil what’s to come in the next few days.
Even though I am only 2 days into the project (and only a few nights into re-reading and pre-scheduling posts), I am quickly realizing that reflecting on this part of my life was probably a very good decision. I can already feel that my perspective on my life at this current time is changing. I have overcome so much, and I can continue to overcome everything ahead.